There Are Many Options in Every Moment in Life, But in Such a True Relationship You Are Without Options
Living-true-relationships: these are connections that prosper from observations looking for more participation . . . never . . . inspections looking for the judgments of performance. When you experience the fulfillment of such a relationship — a living-true-relationship — you have an awareness of connection without any credits or scores for the performance. It is effortless . . . it is painless . . . it is gratifying.
There are many options in every moment of life, but in such a true relationship you are without options. You have surrendered all of your options to your commitment . . . and this is why — even though they are desired - living - true - relationships are generally avoided.
You fear giving up your options (they represent safety nets and backup plans) and these kind of authentic relationships are where options are no longer options. Survival instincts tell you to run like the wind.
Touch the teachings of the greatest masters - "be as death while alive," they tell you, "have no options." When you have this as a choice of no choice, you are at the gates of surrender at all times. This is authenticity; sit and seek no results in it . . . just be in this state of complete zero — shunya. This is the gateway to the land of miracles. You cannot calculate your way into this land, but once you are in — you do not want to leave — you have the time of your life — you become a beacon for others.
Survival is the instinctual avoidance of death. Death is only a death of the five senses and the five elements . . . not of the being. Grief and mourning at a death are the gauges that sit on the dash board of life; they indicate the fragility of awareness, not of life. These emotions are not bad; though they are painful, they are powerful indicators of the inner movements in awareness that is now required. This is the movement needed to relocate the eternal threads and infinite facets of the relational connections. These are what are known as the ecto-plasmic connections.
This is all about the power of subtle moments — this is a moment requiring deep and uninterrupted meditation. Do not avoid or ignore this sadness — use it to shift the physical gears over to their non-physical natures. When sadness indicates you are off this course — pause, recalibrate, and recommit to reconciling it. Do not change the sadness — change the course. Pass through sadness and exchange the ecto-plasmic connections for the connections of pure spirit that exist just "beyond" the physical.
In living - true - relationships — with choices that are no longer of your choosing and where there are no options in the options — you have completely let go of holding back. You have no plan "B" and there is no back-doors available. There is only the most valuable possession possible . . . the relationships beyond the doorway of death. The five elements and the five senses have been left at this doorway; the physical limitations are now transcended, but the relationship is even more alive and far truer.
This passage is arduous, but worth the pain. All living - true - relationships are a dress rehearsal for this death. This is why they are so obviously and adamantly avoided . . . simply remind your-self — death cannot be.
When you willingly release your intense fears of surrender and arrive at the eternity of living - true - relationship — from such a moment onward you will find yourself in fear of nothing. You will find yourself in the sweet embrace of fearless wisdom. You will find yourself . . . . . . .