The Stage of the Heart (Part II)
This stage, between chronological childhood and spiritual adulthood, is essential. Since the traditional “rite of passage” is so universally missing from our modern culture, this adult-child stage is the replacement. Be good, be kind and be compassionate with this stage, as you would with any child’s fear or doubt. Don’t analyze or misjudge it, but be determined to compassionately work through it. Be a forgiving mentor whenever you find this confusion within yourself or in others. If you are in fact a conscious, compassionate, spiritual adult, then following the safe more proven standards will never satisfy your adult requirements for adventure. These are like trainer wheels on a bike – they will only slow you down if you already know how to ride. If, however, you still find yourself searching for a guarantee of safety or success, and then you sense that this search feels unfitting of your evolutionary level, clear away this dabbling with heartfelt courage. Become te guarantee itself. Be your own faith and commitment. This is the stage of conscious adult consciousness.
Some will resist such a commitment in favor of their confusion and its tireless analysis. Know that these persons are committed to being an adult-child and there is nothing wrong with this stage of development.
You must, however, draw the important conclusion that this behavior has no response ability. Do not set up the disappointment of giving this adult-child the keys to the “car” of your life. They will not have the awareness and the commitment to manage such profound response ability selflessly.
Learn to surround yourself with a balanced mix of conscious adults, adult-childs and children. Each of these has a role to play in every one’s world. Don’t mislabel anyone with your false need for their approval. Live on purpose even when it’s wild, untamed and unfinished. Even when it is not approved of. Adults will understand this and appreciate the inspiration – adult-childs will question and judge and analyze and continue to go about their confusion. This is their way of testing and ultimately clearing up their own path for growth. When you expect nothing more from them, they are free to be who they are destined to be without the limiting burden of your unhelpful criticism.
If you are truly on the path of love and commitment, not lust and confusion, place your heart above your head and walk with unbridled and unproven purpose. Gather many adults close around you and be a mentor to the adult-childs who are attracted to your fearless wisdom. Do not be enchanted by their attractions – or confused by their distractions. Remain committed to your purpose as a leader, as a teacher, as an adult in this, the next evolution.