Relationships (Part II)


The pathway to enlightenment is of course the fundamental purpose of all existence. Is this your destiny in life? This is an advanced course and not of much interest to the elementary mind. Are you more enchanted by your chemistry of a moment, or your ministry to the cosmos? Contrary to Bollywood and Hollywood films, there is rarely a relationship that is off the shelf – out of the box and ready to be used without a great deal of assembly. This process can take many years to accomplish, if one really applies sufficient concentration and works without the common setbacks of despair. Are you ready for this work? When one side goes to frailty, are you ready to go to your strength? When one side goes to bewilderment, are you ready to not go to protection and condemnation?

When any partnership is fragile, faith must compassionately prevail as the mender of hearts. This is not an arena for anyone who dislikes consequences, for they are often instantaneous and momentous. After all, relationships are mirrors of the spirit. But do be determined to always live in a relationship, rather than a relation-canoe. Make sure that everyone can stand up.

Relationships are great teachers. They teach us that life is not about changing or controlling the outside world, but about molding and mastering the perceptions from the inside. Never demand, always compassionately command any union. Thoughts formed from these tethered together minds display the possibilities of life and break the illusions that bind us short of our dreams. Learn to limit the thoughts that do not serve or further life’s possibilities, or that produce ill will. Learn to love the authority that achieves mental and emotional clarity. Remember that you are the one who thinks and feels your thoughts and feelings. Make the choices that allow you to relate, not the ones that refuse, confuse or self-protect by remaining closed.

Relational success is never found with competition or comparison. As long as there is comparing going on, there is no relating. Be compassionate and compatible for others to aspire, admire and you will recognize the other person as yourself. Then remember, every event in life, even being by yourself, is a relationship. Strive to be the best participant possible.