Everybody Grows Old, But Very Few Grow Up
To be consistently growing in the midst of life's changes, charges and challenges, we must constantly check with ourselves: "am I committed to being right, or am I committed to feeling good, or am I committed to growing?" Then remember, growth does not always feel good, and feeling good does not always provide growth, and neither one is going to always be considered "right" by the rest. There must always be a balanced conscious coordination between the sensations of your emotional and physical worlds, and the sensibilities of your evolutionary progress through this world. The physical and emotional bodies speak in a temporal language of selfishness . . . a drive to comfort and pleasure . . . a primitive means of survival that desires being right — first and foremost. This is not a bad thing, if it is not the only thing, but it should never be more than one third of your life's focus. The mind's conscious expansion and your spiritual fulfillment are to balance out the other two thirds of your purpose.
A baby is completely body centric, but as we grow, we are supposed to balance this out. Are you growing? There is an old saying in yoga about this: "Everybody grows old, but very few grow up."
Without releasing the shackles of this body centric need — which honors feelings over growth — you will be forever dancing to the uncommitted beat that progresses only part way toward your goals. We call this the "halfway-dance" and it takes place in the "comfort lounge" on the "first floor" of your "halfway house." It is in fact, a sub-primitive human nature — it arrived with the conceptual mind around one hundred thousand years ago and has been developing and taking command ever since.