Anytime we take offense to a reaction we set our sail of consciousness in direct opposition to that which we took offense to. The opposition could come from a circumstance, a situation, or what appears to be a different personality then ourselves. Anytime we take this offense, it blows us backward in life. Angles, which are the fundamental component of Kundalini yoga, teach us to arrange the sail of consciousness so that we can utilize any force. We can utilize any opposition and any proposition as an energy that moves us forward on our path. But sometimes we subconsciously want to move backwards because we want sympathy. And we can't get sympathy by succeeding, only by being a victim. The good news of course is that we have choices and the technology to make them consciously; choose wisely.